Thursday, April 17, 2014

Discretion ...

You don't have to tell everyone everything.
Some things are nicer or are meant to only share with special people.

You don't have to tell everyone everything ...
Sometimes there are just no explanations needed.

Enjoy this Lauryn Hill mix. Had me swaying :)


Monday, March 31, 2014

That spring feeling!

It starts to get ears tingle...because the pop playing in my headphones just gets sweeter and maybe a little cheesier! 
(I love kpop. Period. Don't judge me.)
A few so I'm listening to lately. A lot of feel good songs, and some Zambian soul for some soul soothing.

Sunday, March 30, 2014

Choosing yourself.

One of the hardest things you can do is choose yourself.
Say no to another person and choose yourself, your sanity, your peace, your heart.
Even when what was is being asked of you sounds so good, and could be immensely beneficial.
Will you sell your personal sense of peace for a cup of coffee you don't feel like having with that friend?
Will you keep working on something or for people that leave a bad taste in your mouth?
Will you keep making choices that are not for your ultimate good?

Choose yourself.


Monday, March 3, 2014


I don't have anything particularly 'innovative' to say. I just want to remind people that you do not have to be perfect to be loved.
By your family, by your spouse , by God and most importantly by yourself.

Don't wait till you check something off a list to be kind to yourself.

Be kind to yourself. Always.


Thursday, February 27, 2014

How do you deal with frustration?


: a feeling of anger or annoyance caused by being unable to do something : the state of being frustrated
: something that causes feelings of anger and annoyance : something that frustrates someone
: the act of preventing the success of something : the act of frustrating something

Remember my last post about being quiet and finding out exactly what you want or feel about something? 
I took a time out to pinpoint what was bugging me.

The word that came up was frustrated.
I am feelig frustrated.
Frustrated.Simply that.

Frustrated with feeling that I am unable to do something about certain things.
Its not that I am unable.
I just haven't figured it out yet.

That may be what you need to know about your frustration.
You just have not figured out how to work around that situation.
When you think about it that way, you will have more patience with yourself.
You will figure it out.Be patient.


Monday, February 24, 2014

My body

I've always been very comfortable with my body.
I have in the past been uncomfortable with my skin tone.
There is a lot of talk about colourism amongst people of colour and I am glad it is being addressed.

I love my body, I love to love it back into shape (I need some loving right now :) ) , as for my skin tone?
Its amazing.

Like Curtis Mayfield sang 

We people who are darker than blue
This ain't no time for segregatin'
I'm talking 'bout brown and yellow two

Listen to those horns! Those violins, and dig the yellow suit!


Thursday, February 20, 2014

Praise someone - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

For in a way giving the African woman permission to embrace writing about her culture, how awkward it can be, how funny it is, and that we can be proud of it, I say thank you.
You caught my attention with Half of a yellow sun , and as I continued to read your books, you caught my attention with your grace and honesty when you talked about love, race and hair , you still had your accent, the way your hair was done was something I could do back home unafraid, but here in the 'Diaspora' I've been nervous to do it. 
You had me screaming  ' This sister ooooooo!' 

I love that you rock your hair so fiercely, and you wear those African fabrics so gloriously.
I write about you often....You are amazing!

Why is it so important? 

We lack a considerable amount of black African women on the world stage, those that are not models, or the wives of dictators, but indeed we are rising!

You have shown me that I can rise and still wear my chitenge, and not forget to be kind even in an interview (You asked the presenter if his mother wore a wig because she suffered from Alopecia.How kind of you! )

I just wanted to say thank you, for showing young black African women they can.
We are very similar to black American women that we see so often in the media, but we are black African women.We can aspire to be ourselves.

Even before  your now famous feature on Beyonce's song, you were and still are such a wonderful beautiful African girl.

So I say thank you, and as I hum the song 'African Girl' by Zamajobe  ( you can preview the song, number 11)  I salute you!

African girl,
Do your thing,
African girl, 
Move to the beat,
Shine girl - Move girl,
Princess of the Universe,
Proud lady
African lady

Beautiful girl,
Do your thing,
Beautiful thing,
You are glorified
Shine girl-Move girl,
Princess of the Universe,
Proud lady,
African lady,

Walk that walk,
Carry it with pride,
Hold your head up high,
Beautiful girl,

You glow as the sun kisses your skin,
You walk so gracefully,

You've got the groove,
You've got the groove,
You are so smooth,


Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Defining life moment

Defining life moment.

Packing up all my stuff and moving to New York.

I was only in New York for a few hours.
 (My friend who I was supposed to stay with tells me after I get there that her landlord doesn't want me living there.Thanks girl.)

I ended up in Boston. (Gordon, you saved my life.)
Lived there for years.

One of the best phases in my life.

Life threw me a curveball and all it did was point me in the right direction.

Has life thrown you any curve balls lately?

Hold on, there is a lovely surprise on the other side!


Monday, February 10, 2014

Theme songs of my life (at the moment!)

Oh what? you thought it would be someone else?
I am a grown woman.I can do whatever I want.
This has to do with dealing with being a people pleaser.

Brooke Fraser says it well, if the world caves in around me, I'll be found still standing, because He is with me.

This one is just a feel good one.
He still remembers what RnB should sound like.